I wonder sometimes - how law of balances apply so perfectly in nature? Evaporation occurs, clouds are formed, rains happen, filling the oceans and seas with that same water that was evaporated once, Law of equivalence of energy - Sun's energy gets to plants, then to humans and then back to earth, which vitalizes the plants. I remember one episode of HIMYM, which epitomized how everyone has a punching bag or rather a shouting box, and this is not an individual phenomenon but is a complete cycle. One's boss shouts at him/her, he/she shouts at his wife/husband, they shout at their friends and the cycle goes on.
Concealed anger and acting are the main causes and perpetrators of such phenomena. When someone is constantly bugged and harassed somewhere, he/she is likely to vent out somewhere else where he/she knows that he/she can't be questioned or challenged. If that person tries to break the cycle by not bursting out, he is likely to suffer from severe migraine and disorientation, which would eventually lead to more bugging and harassing at the former place due to his "incapability" to mingle with the group of people harassing him/her. Here's an example - Suppose there is a person named X, who is humble and ingenuous and doesn't like to point out people's mistakes in open and create a whole scene out of it. Now, he has a group of "friends", which has an innate habit of pointing out people's mistake and constantly bug that person about it. X, a poor guy, who innocently considers his group would accept him as he is, lets out his weaknesses. Well, of course, the consequences were brutal. Being reminded about all his drawbacks and weaknesses every second, X lost a great deal of confidence to even speak a single line. Why ? - Because they would make fun of it regardless of the fact that it is worth making fun or not.Every single action is challenged or questioned, X tries to justify and they find yet another joke to laugh to. But that's not all, the vicious cycle, X returns home with a bad mood and vents out his concealed anger, ruining his life at the very granular level.
One very big question springs up here - Why does he have to mingle with "such" people at the first place? Well, that's a different story. May be X has no choice. Isolation in past can have a grave effect on one's behavior - "Something is better than nothing".
I will not agree that X is still not alone, considering the fact that his life is ruined at both levels. But at least he can act happy and sometimes talk to one of "those" people nicely, enjoying that very moment. That is enough for X to push him over the mountain of all worries and fears he faces each day, every moment.
Is there a solution to the above problem ? Well, probably a solution doesn't exist. X can try to change himself and then choke to death or can try to retaliate in the same way they attack. But, does X like it that way?. He never hurts people on their wounds again and again.
X can suffer but can't see others suffer like he does.